Love this! So so true. But I would add: I’m not sure it needs to be a break up or have that finality in the phrasing. Being honest and kind can also mean simply stating the obvious “I’m not sure we’re on the same page anymore” and see where it goes. That leaves the door open to continue being acquaintances and/or to reconnect in the future. Unlike romantic relationships, friends can come in and out of your life through different life stages, specially if there’s no bad blood or they haven’t done you wrong. And while I know that’s not your intention in the phrasing, I think the finality is present and creates the perception that you won’t be welcome in that person’s life again.
I loved this piece! Ty Madison. You just gave me so much clarity tbh. I had a friendship end in 2021 because there was so much misalignment and diff expectations. She expected more than I could give, but I felt like I was already giving a LOT. i let it slow fade instead of just speaking my truth. I always thought she's since resented me bc I couldn't bleed out for her, but now I'm realizing no, she just needed me to give it to her straight.
Love this! So so true. But I would add: I’m not sure it needs to be a break up or have that finality in the phrasing. Being honest and kind can also mean simply stating the obvious “I’m not sure we’re on the same page anymore” and see where it goes. That leaves the door open to continue being acquaintances and/or to reconnect in the future. Unlike romantic relationships, friends can come in and out of your life through different life stages, specially if there’s no bad blood or they haven’t done you wrong. And while I know that’s not your intention in the phrasing, I think the finality is present and creates the perception that you won’t be welcome in that person’s life again.
Great point. Thank you for sharing!
Felt this on so many levels this month.
Ooof I feel you! Thanks for sharing and reading.
love that you’re writing about this!!
Love you my T!
i love you <3 and love that you wrote about this all too notion!
I loved this piece! Ty Madison. You just gave me so much clarity tbh. I had a friendship end in 2021 because there was so much misalignment and diff expectations. She expected more than I could give, but I felt like I was already giving a LOT. i let it slow fade instead of just speaking my truth. I always thought she's since resented me bc I couldn't bleed out for her, but now I'm realizing no, she just needed me to give it to her straight.
WOW! Thanks for sharing this Ali. I’m so glad this piece resonated. And I sooo feel you. I’ve done the same. We live and we learn!