Stop Taking Life Advice From People Who Use Facebook...

It’s Time to Stop Seeking Validation from a Generation Who Won't Go to Therapy and are Stuck in the Past.

I often hear people complaining about their Boomer parents, Boomer bosses, Boomer family members—basically any Boomer who refuses to understand where they’re coming from. It’s the same refrain: Why don’t they get it? Why won’t they go to therapy?

Here’s my advice: stop taking life advice from people who actively use Facebook.

Now, obviously, this is a gross generalization. My dad, for instance, is the exception. That man can hang, party, and vibe with Millennials and Gen Z like it’s nothing. But…he doesn’t have social media. For the most part, Boomers are out of touch—they’re still making plans with their friends on their feeds and posting blurry photos on Facebook…multiple times a day…7 days a week.

We live in an entirely different world than the one they grew up in. When my mom moved to New York City at 24, her starting salary was the same as mine was when I moved into my own at 24. The difference? Her rent in 1982, for a 1 bedroom apartment in Manhattan, was $700. Her was rent cheap. Her groceries were cheap, her subway ride was 75 cents…cheap.

Flash forward to 2025, and we are spending SO much energy trying to make Boomers understand us—trying to convince them to go to therapy, to confront their emotional blind spots, to see the world through our eyes. I’m guilty of being a boomer-therapy crusader in the past…I’ve given up on that. I don’t take advice from Boomers unless it’s one of the few I deeply respect and trust (and yes, I do have a handful).

But generally speaking, I believe Millennials and Gen Z are wasting too much time trying to make a generation of people who refuse to do their own self-work understand who we are and what makes us tick. We’re pouring our energy into an analysis of why Boomers had it better—and, yes, they did—and not enough time asking, What are we going to do about it? How do we change our current situation?

That’s the real question. I wonder how much of our collective burnout is fueled by the Boomer resentment we carry around—the fact that our parents’ generation bought five-thousand-square-foot homes for $3 while we can’t buy a two-hundred-square-foot studio for $400,000.

Not to say that none of these things matter, but it’s time for us to radically accept the truth: Boomers, for all their quirks and questionable social media habits, aren’t going to change. And that’s fine. It’s time to re-strategize where we place our attention.

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So, now what?

Instead of fixating on why they “don’t get it,” let’s focus on what we can do as a culture and as a generation to take care of ourselves. The answer isn’t playing by the same broken rules they did. It’s going to take challenging corporations, advocating for higher pay, and maybe even leaning into the Gen Z approach of drawing hard boundaries and saying, “No, we’re not going to keep working for scraps.”

Especially now, in a time of global crises—economic instability, climate change, and immigration crises—we might actually have more leverage than we think. If we stop wasting energy trying to drag Boomers to therapy and start using that energy to create a better system for ourselves, maybe we can start to feel less burnt out and more hopeful about what comes next.

Boomers had their time. Now it’s ours.

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Playing Devil’s Advocate: 10 Ways Millennials Could Change the System:

Trevor Noah has a segment on his podcast called “If I Ruled The World,” where they talk through a variety of hypothetical scenarios, often with an insanely absurd and thought-provoking take. Let’s do something similar, but different. Instead of just venting (because, let’s face it, we’ve all done that), here are 10 ideas for how Millennials (& Gen Z!) might actually change the system…If we ruled the world (unlike our geriatric “leaders)...we would actually see change.

The Rules:

The 10 ideas below are open for debate in the comments—tell me which numbers you agree with, which ones are totally off, and how you’d change the rules. Some of these might feel radical, some might feel obvious, but the point is to start thinking differently. Let’s hash it out.

1. Normalize Career Hopping.
Staying at one company for 30 years is outdated. Let’s make job-hopping the standard path to better pay and opportunities.

2. Demand Pay Transparency.
If salaries were public, corporations wouldn’t get away with paying people wildly different amounts for the same work.

3. Push for a Four-Day Workweek.
It’s 2025. Why are we still pretending that five days of work and two days of rest is fair or productive?

4. Advocate for Universal Basic Income.
If billionaires can rocket themselves into space for fun, we can fund a safety net for people to live with dignity.

5. Boycott Overwork Culture.
Stop glorifying the grind. If your boss emails you at 11 p.m., let that notification rot.

6. Create Worker Co-Ops.
Start businesses where employees share ownership, profits, and decision-making power.

7. Shift the Narrative on Success.
Let’s stop tying self-worth to job titles or productivity. Success is health, joy, and meaningful relationships—not a LinkedIn update.

8. Support Local and Sustainable Businesses.
Put your money where your values are. Big corporations don’t care about you, but your local community does.

9. Build Intergenerational Wealth—Together.
If you can’t buy a house solo, team up with friends or family. Let’s rethink the nuclear family model and build collective wealth.

10. Stop Voting for Old People.
Our politicians should understand the world we’re living in, not the one they grew up in. Let’s prioritize younger, more progressive leaders.

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What Do You Think?
Which of these ideas “make sense” to you? Which would you champion? How would you rewrite the rules?

Let’s figure this out together—drop your thoughts in the comments, and let’s start brainstorm.